Wow thank you all for the replies. Im very happy this board is here. Its nice to be able to ask questions and not be cut apart by people.
Ok so some responses.
I had a RBTA die about 3 days ago. During that the ammonia went up a little. The ammonia since then has gone back down to 0. I have had coral die off for some time now. But it was mainly just new stuff that has been added to the tank. And not all of it has died off. I would say 1 piece to every 4-5 added. I was told by another LFS that it was dieing because of the way the coral was shipped. For the most part i was under the impression that my water was pretty good. Everytime that i talked to my LFS they told me to check my Nitrates, NItrites nd ammonia. They never said much about my kH. I ended up with the Kalk dripper because i was told that it would help with calcium delivery. I have always had a real issue growing coraline. The more i have read recently, i have found that it doesnt help to much with calcium.
I will be very honest here and i hope no one hates me for it, but i very rarely was testing kH and PH. It wasnt something that was ever asked about when i went to talk aboit my tank at stores. I feel terrible about this. I thought i was doing a good job because my fish always seemes really healthy and eat all the time, that i was doing good. It sounds bad but i was under the impression that alot of coral die off from shipping and bad selection. The wholesalers that i have been to, well lets just say there is one or two that have the worst conditions i have ever seen. THe owenr never listens to me and we still order from them.
As for buffering the PH with my water changes, no. When i do a water change i fill up 5 gallon jugs, mix 2.5 cups of salt. Mix it, let it sit for a day or so and then ad to the sump.
And lastly the bioload. Im sure you are going to say that it is very high. Here is what i have:
1 Blond Naso Tang, 6-7in
1 Orange Shoulder tang, 5-6in
1 Hippo Tang, 4-5in
1 glod spot rabbit fish, 3-4in
2 false perc clowns, M 2-3in F 3-4in
1 flame angel 2-3in
1 coral beauty 2-3in
1 mystery wrasse 3-4in
1 lephard wrasse 3-4in
1 ember blenny 2-3in
5 blue/green chromis.
1 lion fish 1.5-2in
1 carpet anemone 6-8 in across
2 Dersa Clams 4-6 in
2 crocea clams 4-6in
1 kohal tang 2-3 in in the refigium
1 blue with yellow tail damsel in sump 2-3 in