Hey, it was good meeting you finally btw.
I imagine the same way rocks are reused, the same could be said about sand. Some folks bleach and kill everything on rocks. Then rinse and clean until neutralized. Why can't the same be done with sand. Seems logical to me that the same could be done with sand. Granted a lot of water and effort will be put it to get it cleaned, but for a large tank, it seems like a fair option.
In the past, when cleaning various types of aggregates for my fw tanks, I would create a "back wash" in buckets. Basically, forcing water flow upward. Could do it with just a hose, but a pvc adapter with small holes facing up is the best. I place the bucket near one of my fruit trees so the water doesn't go to waste. It essentially clears out the detritus and lighter particulate matter in a few minutes. The heavy sand stays in the bucket. I go in for extra agitation a few times and it's done. You need a good amount of pressure to accomplish this FYI, but it works. I may need to recreate this in the near future for a couple tank transfers.