I had a durso and I couldn’t make it completely silent. You have to be careful putting a valve on the drain because, as you’ve discovered, you have no emergency drain. You could make an emergency standpipe by converting the drilled return hole, but then you would have to find a different way to return (either HOB or drill a new bulkhead).
You can make a durso quieter by adjusting the flow through the pipe (turn up and down your DC pump), adjusting the height of the durso pipe relative to the weirs, adjusting the size of the air valve, and adjusting the height the water falls into the sump. Consider adding a U to the drain pipe just under the sump so the water doesn’t fall as far.
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